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Parents, Are You Ready For the Season?

With games kicking off all over the state, it's an exciting time for those involved at any level of Washington Youth Soccer. New players are learning the game for the first time, experienced players are setting their sights on League and Cup titles, while coaches statewide are drawing up training plans, referees are reviewing the Laws of the Game, and club and league administrators are prepping the fields, mailing out schedules and preparing for those first kicks.

As a youth soccer parent, you, too, are key part of the season and each soccer game. From helping a child first connect with the game, to encouraging their positive growth and development, parents are an essential part of a young player's life - before, during and after the game. The behavior you exhibit on the sidelines throughout the season has a serious impact on both your player and his/her teammates, and it is your responsibility as a parent to make sure you are following proper sideline etiquette.

To help you prepare for your role in the season to come, Michael Langlois, author of "How Well Do You Communicate? A Guide to Better Communication with Players and Parents for Youth Soccer Coaches" and a frequent contributor to, offers a reminder of little things we, as parents and team supporters watching from the sidelines, can do this fall to ensure a successful season for all:

1. Make positive comments from the sideline. Be encouraging. Young athletes need positive reinforcement and encouragement, not reminders of perceived errors or mistakes. Even small encouragements can go a long way to boost a young player's confidence and, in turn, performance. Their coaches will instruct them, either during the game or at halftime, and during practices. We want to see all children succeed, but if they make a mistake, chances are they will learn from it. You can often see a young player make that extra effort when they hear encouraging words from the sideline about their hustle. Some good encouragements include: "Great Job Blue Team!" "Nice Hustle Johnny!" "Great Shot!" "Nice Teamwork!" "Good Ball!" and so on.

2. Respect all participants of the game, including referees. It's important to remember that referees are a key piece of the game and it is crucial to support their role with respect. It is the main goal of the referee to make the game safe and fun for the children - your support can help them achieve that goal. Referees, many of whom are youth themselves, are human and will make mistakes at times, however, they are learning the game, just as our youth players are. As adult stewards of the sideline, it is your responsibility to ensure their learning process is supported with positive reinforcement and constructive criticism, not negative pressure from the sidelines. Your attitude towards referees will not only have a direct impact on the referees but can set the tone for your players, their team and your fellow parents as well. Fostering the growth of our local referees will make them better referees in the future, and increase the number of outstanding, experienced refs for your children's games.

3. If you have a suggestion for your child's coach, arrange a time to meet or discuss away from other parents or players. It's important that players have confidence and respect for their coaches. If you have an issue with your child's coach - either regarding game strategy, playing time or other team-related issues - arrange an appointment to meet privately, away from a soccer field. This makes sure that your issue receives the attention it deserves from the coach, while not undermining his or her authority with the team.

4. Respect and support your fellow soccer parents and spectators. Remember that when it comes to youth soccer, we are talking about youngsters, not adults who are being paid to play professionally. Keep your interaction with parents on the other team as healthy and positive as possible. Of course both team's parents want their children to win, but it's more important that the kids have fun, learn self-respect and build life skills for their futures.

5. Before you speak or act, ask yourself, "Will I be proud of what I am about to say or do when I reflect on it tomorrow?" We don't excuse athletes for doing inappropriate things in the "heat of the moment" (there are penalties, suspensions, etc.), so we should apply similar standards to our own sideline behavior. Sometimes, just taking a second to consider the impact of your actions can be enough to help you hit the brakes.

6. On the ride home, focus on the positives from the game. Whether it is a coach's decision, a referee's call, a comment that was made, or some other aspect of the game that has yourself or your child upset after the game - let it go. Go home, relax and unwind. Talk positively with your child. The ride home is sometimes as important as the game itself. Make that time a good memory for your son or daughter by discussing as many positives as you can about him/her, the coach, teammates, etc.

For more tips on being the best soccer parent you can be, read US Youth Soccer's The Parents Guide: An Introduction to Youth Soccer.

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The FA's Respect Parent Guide to Youth Soccer
Posted Nov 9, 2010

Hollywood tough guy Ray Winstone shows his support for The FA's Respect Parent Guide to Youth Football

Winstone is here to promote The FA's new Respect Parent Guide after research showed that more than 7,000 youngsters had hung up their boots over the last couple of years due to pressure from the sidelines.

Winstone believes that parents need to lose the "win at all costs" attitude and bring some enjoyment back to the game: "Kids want their parents to watch them play football but they want to be supported by them, not embarrassed."

The FA Respect programme has already had a major breakthrough in the grassroots game with dissent figures showing an 8% improvement nationwide on last season's totals while 567 leagues have shown their support by becoming Respect Leagues.

A guide for Parents -- FA Respect Program:

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